Sunday, November 29, 2009

To Swallow, or not to Swallow?

I recently read on one of the many blogs I follow an entry where someone had written about swallowing. The question on her blog was in two parts, for men…”Do you expect it?” and for women, “Do you swallow, why or why not?” There were some really good answers and comments that really got me thinking, and asking my husband for some input on his views! I wanted to share some things here and maybe get some more insight from you guys.

My thoughts on swallowing:

I do it, but not all the time. I’ve talked to some girls that say they love the taste, they crave it. I’ve also talked to some girls that say they can’t stand the taste. Some girls have told me that it’s just easier because there is less mess to clean up. For me, it’s not about the taste at all, it’s not exactly something I would crave…lol. Then again, it doesn’t bother me at all. I actually have a friend that has told me even the thought of a little cum getting on her skin will make her gag. Where does all of this come from. Is it all a mental thing? For me, it’s natural, there’s nothing harmful or nasty about it.

I swallow at times and at times I don’t. It’s not like I start a blowjob thinking to myself, “OK, I’m going to swallow this time.” It’s more of a heat of the moment thing. It’s always a surprise I guess you could say. For me and for him. Imagine the last few times I’ve given you a blowjob I finished you with my hand, and then without warning, You’re about to cum and I take you deep in my throat and begin to furiously suck on your cock and play with your balls. Now how hot is that? Totally unexpected and in my experience always turning out to be a very intense orgasm.

So for me, it’s all about not being predictable. I don’t want you to be able to expect anything from you, I like to catch you off guard…lol. At times it depends on my mood, at times it just depends on where we are, and sometimes it depends on what I have planned for us next…lol. It’s never because he expects it of me, because it’s the right thing to do, or because it’s easier. I swallow because when I give head it’s all about him. I want to drive him over the edge and make him remember that blowjob for the rest of his life…lol. 

His thoughts on swallowing:

OK, like I said I asked my husband what his thoughts on all of this were. He read the Blog that inspired me to write this entry and he says he never expects it. He loves it, but his thoughts were is he knew every blowjob would end that way that it wouldn’t be as enjoyable when I do. With that being said he explained that if we were on the way to meet with friends or something of that nature and I got the urge to go down on him (which has been known to happen…lol) he would expect it. Otherwise, he ends up with cum stained clothes before we go out…lol. That I understand completely.  So, I asked him this. We meet up with another couple for some swinging fun, do you expect her to swallow? He answered absolutely not. I asked him if he is ever disappointed when a blow job doesn’t end with swallowing? He said that he would never be disappointed in a good blowjob, swallowing or not…lol.

This led me to my next question, I was a little intrigued and learning more about my lover and about a man in general…lol. I asked him this, “If I were like my friend who can’t stand to get cum on her at all or even if I told you I would never swallow, would you be able to deal with that?” He answered no. He said for him, the fact that I swallow sometimes and not others shows him that it’s not something I do just for him. If that were the case I’d do it every time. It shows him that it’s about me too. He said that he likes the fact that sometimes he cums on my face, on my toes, in my pussy, on my stomach, on my ass, on my boobs, and sometimes in my mouth. He says that it shows that I see it as natural, it doesn’t repulse me, and that I’m open minded enough to accept that. He says most guys are looking for that atypical “freak in the bedroom” woman that is willing to try anything once and always up for something new. That’s how we learn what we like and dislike sexually. He says most guys see a woman that is degraded or grossed out by getting a little cum on her, or in her, as a woman that isn’t open to trying new things and crossing the lines that society says are our sexual boundaries.

He said in the blog that inspired this he read that the writer was asked by a guy early in a relationship if she swallowed. There was some emphasis on the fact that he asked such an intimate question so early, like it was no big deal at all. My husband seems to think it was a test…lol. He said a girl that was offended by the question might not be the girl for him. A girl that could grin and say, “maybe” might be the one. His thoughts are that the reaction to the question was much more important to this guy than the actual answer.

Now these are our thoughts on swallowing, and we all know how different people are, so we’d both love to hear you thoughts and comments on the subject!

Do guys expect it? Prefer it?

Do girls do it? Do they enjoy it or just do it for the guys? Why do you do it, or why do you not do it?

What do you think about a guy asking early, say on a first date, if you swallow or not?

Is he looking for your reaction or for the actual “YES”?

What are snappy comebacks we could throw at them if they ask…lol?



Thursday, November 26, 2009

Thanksgiving Break Away!

We decided this year to have our own little Thanksgiving. My husbands family lives in town and mine lives out of town. It always seems that Thanksgiving is hard because we try and make it to both places in a day. So, we decided this year to just do our own thing here at home. So, I did all of the cooking, with some help from hubby and the kids.

Honestly, it was a great Thanksgiving. Although we adopted many of the Thanksgiving traditions from both of our families, this year we started our own Thanksgiving Traditions. Just me, my husband, and our three wonderful kids. It has been a great day for our family.

We will talk to our families on the phone today and wish them all a Happy Thanksgiving, but today is about us and our little family. It’s our break away from being strung between two families so far away and the running back and forth. maybe next year we’ll attempt to get them all together at my house….then again when I think about it…maybe not…lol. Either way, we plan to visit them all soon, just not today!


Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Foot Fetish Friday!!!...a few days early!

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foot (2) footIt’s Foot Fetish Friday again on my Southern Charms Site!! Just this time it's on
I love this time of year, all the colors, the cool wet leaves between my toes… soles always end up nice and dirty…lol
You can see more of these or the full update by clicking HERE!!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Playing With A Pole In Fishnet Pantyhose!

Just wanted to share a few photos from today's update on
image7770Put me in a denim skirt, fishnet stockings, boots, and a thong and it just makes me feel sexy as hell. Add a pole and I’m ready to play…lol. I can think of a few different poles I’d rather be sliding up and down on, but this one will have to do for today…. You can see the rest of these pictures HERE on my website!
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Monday, November 23, 2009

How My Foot Fetish Started


As most of you know I have quite the Foot Fetish, or maybe even a “reverse” Foot Fetish. I love to have my feet  looked at, caressed, sucked on, licked, and fucked! I tend to pose a lot in my photo update in way that draws attention to my feet and often do Foot Fetish updates. I was doing a Foot Fetish photo shoot today and was asked, “What started all of this for you, the interest in the Foot Fetish?” It got me to thinking and I know exactly what started it, so I wanted to share the story with you.

About three years ago a close friend and I were in the mall shopping. We stopped at the food court to grab a quick bite to eat and we noticed a guy sitting at a table across from us staring. Of course he looked away when we looked at him, but we still knew he was staring. We finished our lunch and we were about to leave when this guy walked up to us and told me that I had beautiful feet. I was a bit taken off guard but smiled and thanked him. He just turned and walked away as if he was embarrassed.

I was intrigued to say the least, I had heard about guys having a Foot Fetish before but had never been approached by one and complimented. I’ve gotten compliments on my hair, legs, ass, titts, etc…but never on my feet. It had me feeling great and quite aroused. I just felt sexy as hell!

My friend on the other hand, her first reaction when the guy walked away was, “What a weirdo!!!” as she laughed. She was a little surprised to hear my thoughts on it. I told her that I worked hard and spent hard earned money every week on my feet. Pedicures, toenail polish, foot lotions, and high heel shoes. Not to mention toe rings and anklets. All of these things take effort and are for one purpose…to have pretty feet. 

I explained to her that I was intrigued because someone noticed and had the guts to approach me and compliment me. That almost never happens, and when it does I just picture the young girl walking down the beach in a thong complaining because guys are looking at her ass….LMAO. I work hard to keep my feet pretty and I ate every little bit of the attention they got up!  By the time I was done, my friend was asking why he didn’t compliment her feet, she was wearing heels and has pretty feet too.

I guess what it boils down to is this: A guy that is so amazed by any part of me that he can suck it up and approach me and tell me, regardless of he thinks I may say, do, or feel, is one intriguing dude! I’d be able to be myself and have a great time with a guy like that and he’s sure to make me feel like a million dollars. So, I do lots of Foot Fetish photos and videos because those Foot Fetish guys really do it for me!

If you just so happened to be this guy and can tell me where this all happened, I owe you a huge thanks. You opened my eyes to a whole new world and I’d love to thank you properly! Drop me an e-mail and lets see what happens, maybe you won’t be so quick to run off next time!



Today’s Update


The cold rainy days outside are perfect weather for staying inside where it's all warm and cozy. You walk in, all wet and cold and looking for someway to warm yourself up. I've been stuck inside all day and all of this pent up energy needs to be released, so I'm sure I can find away to raise your temperature a little. maybe I can even make you quite hot! I slowly strip out of my black satin PJ's and show just how hot it can get! I'm all ready to warm you up, and I guarantee that you are sure to break a sweat! Click HERE and we'll get started!



Here are a few samples from today's update on my Southern Charms site! There are lots more to see there. You can find them by clicking here.

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Are MFM threesomes scary for men?

What am I doing wrong? Are MFM threesomes scary for guys?

So, as many of you know I've been talking for over a year now about having a threesome with my husband and another man. For those of you that don't know, we've been there many, many times with other women and have loved it. We discussed giving the MFM threesome a shot and decided to go for it about a year ago. I think I'd enjoy it and my husband says he loves to show me off and for him that would be the ultimate. Not to mention he is a very visually aroused man, as most are, and would get to see me in action from points of view that he's never seen me in before. I guess you could say is just one of the many things on our sexual bucket list!
Over this past year we've approached 3-4 of my husbands good friends with the idea and they seem to run like a little school girl who's just been offered a piece of candy from a These are guys that have made comments, flirted, and shown interest before, but when it came right down to it they shy'd away.
Honestly, it makes me question if there is something wrong with me, is it our approach, or is it just the situation in general that freaks them out. I would love to be able to do photos and videos for my website with two guys but in that case they would have to sign model releases and everything, so I know the chances of that are probably even less than that of a threesome with a friend. For me, the first time I do it, I just think I would be more comfortable with someone I know and already have a comfort level with. I mean, I'm sure I'll be nervous either way and when things get going everything will fall into place, but I need to be comfortable the first time, right?
So, if you were approached by a close friend and asked to join him in fucking his wife or letting his wife give you a blowjob, what would you do? Do you have any advice for me guys, or girls?